Where’s My Blessing?

Ever wondered where your blessing is? After seeing everyone else’s on the TL – You’re not alone. Read for some encouragement x

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Recently, I took a brief vacation from social media. As soon as I logged back on, I saw so many posts about graduations, weddings, pregnancies & babies, promotions, new cars & houses and smiling faces everywhere. Everyone has it going on these days! While it gives me great joy to see my friends and associates so happy and blessed, it can also be a bit depressing. Now I know we are not supposed to compare ourselves or our situations to other people’s, but social media gives us a huge platform to do just that. It’s so hard not to compare when the only things people post about are good things. We will post about our big promotion, but won’t tell you about how we struggled to find a job. We are quick to post our new bundle of joy when they’re not even an hour old yet, but we won’t…

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What’s it like- being in a genuine Christian relationship?


Without sounding too cliche,

It is a m a z i n gggg! !!!!

To define a Christian relationship, i’d say it was ‘a relationship with Christ at the center of it’. Pretty simple. But let us go into more detail here. Christ, when He came to earth, had one purpose, and one mission.

He Himself says this in the book of John 6:38 – “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.” In Christ’s every action of teaching, healing, preaching etc. He reflected the love of His Father-saving the souls of the lost by pointing them to the greater meaning of life. He did only God’s will.

And so, because that’s what Christ came to do, and I profess to be a Christian in a relationship that is also Christian; the same purpose and the same mission of Christ should be the same purpose and mission for my relationship. By this I mean, my relationship seeks to do these few things :-

1) Do the will of our Father God

2) Reflect His love to the world

3) Draw people closer to God (as well as ourselves to God), in that when they see us they feel compelled to know more about the God we are serving in our relationship-causing them to believe in Him.

These are not impossible tasks. God would not ask you to do anything that is impossible. (Note, all things are possible through Christ Jesus, but of ourselves we can do nothing! Philippians 4:13 | Matthew 19:26 | John 15:5)

Being in a christian relationship is exciting! It allows me to deeply share my love for God with my boyfriend, knowing that he too is on the same page as me. There is nothing better than agreeing on truth. Many relationships I see and know hold different values, morals and beliefs which after a while, can become super tricky to deal with. I can have hope that when tests and trials swing by our way, God will be at the center of it all, which will make the way we deal with them so much more 1. easier to get through 2. edifying 3.strengthening.

 One thing i must mention about being in a Christ-centered relationship is the worship you get to experience together! Along with family devotions and studies together, spending Sabbath together is super special. Especially in LDRs (long-distance) time spent together is valuable and when you can experience God’s sanctified time with those you love, it’s a truly amazing thing. I just love it !!

Some of you reading this may be asking what about boundaries and all of that ? I understand the life of a Christian to be liberating in a sense that, there is no better or safer place to be than in the will of God- who knows all things. I say that to say this, setting boundaries are important in every relationship. So is communication with God and with the person you are in a relationship with. It is so necessary to talk about everything so that there is no assumption, nor confusion or misunderstanding. God will reveal everything He believes you should know and at the time He wants you to know it. Let God write your love story! No need to try and manage it yourself because as said before, we can’t do anything (right in God’s sight- which is what our christian relationship is aiming for) without Him!  🙂

Each relationship is different, just as each individual Christian is different, and so there will always be things that are regarded more special or less challenging than others. The good thing is that we can grow together, learning as we grow and get closer to Christ. You will find that your wants, dreams, hopes and desires will change and become more Christ centered. Your personal life will change the closer you draw to God and that will then change your relationship for the good.

Not everything will be as they say plain sailing, and especially as you seek to keep your relationship a Christian one, the enemy of souls will try his utmost to deter your efforts from doing so.

Keeping Consistent: That can be the most difficult thing about being in a Christian relationship. Just as your personal Christian journey needs close and constant attention, so does your relationship!

Consistency is always a hard one, trust me, staying on my work-out routines and keeping up my healthy lifestyle is sometimes VERY challenging. But there is hope, and that also makes it the best thing about being in a Christian relationship; God never leaves you, nor forsakes you.

I encourage all who read this to think about their relationships today. What is the purpose and what is the mission? Do you do it just for you? Ask yourself these questions and contemplate the scriptures, for in them you will find guidance on how to truly be in a Christian relationship.

Peace, Love & God Bless,

Dest x

The Worry Zone -No Time To Worry

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When finances, accommodation, grades, family issues & personal struggles fill up our ‘worry zone’, it smokes up the hall way leading to heaven- where God is able to soothe our troubled minds. It becomes much harder to pray without doubt and fear.

This morning I found a solution. It’s in the simple heroic words of Jesus..

Cast all of your cares upon Him, because He cares for you! (1 Peter 5:7)

In my worry zone there is very little room (there is still some room) for trust in God. I have access to all of the promises from His word, and all of the testimonies of “won’t He will!?”, but I just can’t seem to fully let go of the situations and give them into the hands of my Creator. For this I am discouraged. He is supposed to be my E V E R Y T H I N G but I can’t even pray without a small feeling of doubt! 😦

The good news is, I am not alone.

God will draw near to me when I cry out to Him, saying, “Lord! Help me to TRUST you more!”

And He will help.

I like working methodically, and in order, and I believe God knows that too.

When I :

  1. Cast all of my cares on Him (because He says to, and He also cares)
  2. LEAVE THEM THERE! Ha! You see there is a difference, between ‘casting upon’ and ‘sharing with’. Please understand this.
  3. I can now move with wisdom and peace, knowing that God is guiding me into a mindset where I can still face those worrying situations, but with a different motive.

Instead of me trying with all my might and failing miserably, I can now begin productivity- with a motive that God doesn’t want me to be idle, nor does He want me to forget that God is in control and that He has heard my cry for help.

It may not be easy, I know, but neither is it impossible. Use that Godly wisdom & go to Him about your problems, after which He will give you answers! Seek Him daily (all day and every day) & He will reveal things to you that you’ll find help your very situation to the ‘t’.

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He may not drop miracles at your door after knocking and running off…

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Though He may give you an idea which you will have to pursue and work at (helping you help yourself as some may see it).

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God loves you! ‘Worry’ is not in His vocab when it comes to how His children should be feeling. And with that thought, I really do hope you can find His peace in all of your situations. x

“Come near to God, and He will come near to you” James 4:8 x

Stay Blessed,

Dest x

Dear Princess Its Possible [-Pt. 2-] The Love Triangle


The stronger our relationship with God, the better our relationshipwill be.

I can honestly say that it’s true. The closer my boyfriend is to God, the closer I want to be to God and to him too (naturally re: diagram above). Yes of course there may be certain exceptions – for those who perhaps are not on the same page spiritually, it can be quite hard to be as close when he/she is drawing closer to God, without you.

About a year prior to me getting into a relationship (meaning, before we had started talking), I had been doing a bit of reading. (I will list the books below) I wanted to know more about love and relationships, and you can spend your whole life reading on these subjects but I stuck to a few because I am admittedly a v e r y        s looooooooow…. reader. 🙂

  1. Letters To Young Lovers – Ellen. G. White
  2. Boy Meets Girl – Joshua Harris (he also has a book called I Kissed Dating Goodbye which is advised as a read before BMG)
  3. Messages To Young People – Ellen. G. White

That’s right, only 3 to start off with, told you i’m a slow reader!

“True love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. On the contrary, it is calm deep in it’s nature. It looks beyond mere externals & is attracted by qualities alone” (LYL 30.1)

This quote has stuck with me ever since I first read it. A friend and I had discussed how this could be so, many a times, and now we can both see how it is indeed very true and practical. I will go into more detail about this quote along with other findings from my reading, in the next blog post so stay tuned. 

Growing up and seeing all kinds of relationships around me, I wanted to pin point ‘true love’. I’m not even sure that was correct thinking but it lead me to keep reading anyway. Then finally when I entered into a relationship of my own I was instantly aware of what the author spoke of when she said, it is calm & deep in  it’s nature. My own love for him reflected this in a way that I almost had to question whether he really was ‘the one’. Now don’t get me wrong, I was sure of my feelings towards him but as far as ‘loving him’ went, I carefully allowed God to guide my every footstep into it.

My prayer being, “Guard my heart Dear Lord, & if it be your will, let this happen”

I will let you into a small small secret. When I first met him, I prayed a certain prayer, which caused me to continue praying meanwhile we were talking. This prayer was me pouring my heart out to God & giving Him my affections, my concerns, my excitement and my fears. I told God how I felt and basically asked Him to show me if it was His will for me and my bf to be together. Long story short, He showed me nothing but green lights, and as time went on,

It was like my guarded heart was gradually opened now & again, and God had been watching and allowing it all.

That was what made the initial journey so special, because not once had God left my thoughts and so He was always guiding me. 🙂

It is so important to share with God what you are going through. When He knows you best, and He knows the end from the beginning, who better to ask for guidance and wisdom from?

—How I Know Love —

I know love by these main pointers.

  1. God : Growing up I have never missed a day at church where God’s love wasn’t spoken of. Whether reading it for ourselves from The Bible (John 3:16, 1 John 4:7,8 to name just two!), or from the front where someone would give their testimony or preach a word about it. I know that God is love, but what that means for me now makes more sense than when i would hear it passively before. It means that A) His character is a loving one, of which has no fault and no taint. which leads me to B) God has, is, and will always continue to show love. His ultimate sacrifice was the life of His only Son – Jesus Christ, who made it possible for me to even come to God after sin!
  2.  God again, because the way my relationship is set up, I see how God loves me through how my bf loves me & vice versa. Don’t freak out, its nothing weird, allow me to elaborate.

Its like this: Waking up every single day, and thinking of that person.  |  Wanting to spend time with them as soon as you’re up- “new day, lets go through it together”.  |  Wanting to know how that person is, how they are feeling and if there is anything you can do to help them feel even better.  |   Sharing with them.  |  Never wanting to leave them throughout the day.  |  Talking/texting them.  |  Going out together.  |  Telling people about them, your family and friends, because you’re so proud to be with them.  |  Your patience towards them.  |  Your tenderness.  |  Your loving them. |

It occurred to me one morning, as i was talking to my own bf, that God’s desired relationship with us is very very similar. Not in the romantic sense, no. But in the dedication sense. Read the passage I wrote again, and this time think about God rather than your significant other and see how God really does love you!

It is His will that the union between man and woman, to which He has given the green light, would be a reflection of  His very character (See 1 Corinthians 13 for details, and study for yourself more about the Character of God to see the links). The way we love each other should reflect the way God loves us, thus our entire lives, each area of them, should be fit for evangelistic purpose. That is to say, tell the Gospel through living it. 

Why don’t you offer up your relationship to God today. Ask Him for wisdom on how to love better, how to respond to love better, ask Him for His ultimate will for your lives.

This is not a blog to make people feel like they need to be in a relationship or have one like mine or anything like that. I write this because I love you and I want you to experience the joy that I know is available within relationships.

sharing is caring, right?

****Coming Up Next****

I will be going into a little more detail about the books i mentioned above and what we can draw out from certain chapters. See you next time x

God Bless

Dest x