What’s it like- being in a genuine Christian relationship?


Without sounding too cliche,

It is a m a z i n gggg! !!!!

To define a Christian relationship, i’d say it was ‘a relationship with Christ at the center of it’. Pretty simple. But let us go into more detail here. Christ, when He came to earth, had one purpose, and one mission.

He Himself says this in the book of John 6:38 – “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.” In Christ’s every action of teaching, healing, preaching etc. He reflected the love of His Father-saving the souls of the lost by pointing them to the greater meaning of life. He did only God’s will.

And so, because that’s what Christ came to do, and I profess to be a Christian in a relationship that is also Christian; the same purpose and the same mission of Christ should be the same purpose and mission for my relationship. By this I mean, my relationship seeks to do these few things :-

1) Do the will of our Father God

2) Reflect His love to the world

3) Draw people closer to God (as well as ourselves to God), in that when they see us they feel compelled to know more about the God we are serving in our relationship-causing them to believe in Him.

These are not impossible tasks. God would not ask you to do anything that is impossible. (Note, all things are possible through Christ Jesus, but of ourselves we can do nothing! Philippians 4:13 | Matthew 19:26 | John 15:5)

Being in a christian relationship is exciting! It allows me to deeply share my love for God with my boyfriend, knowing that he too is on the same page as me. There is nothing better than agreeing on truth. Many relationships I see and know hold different values, morals and beliefs which after a while, can become super tricky to deal with. I can have hope that when tests and trials swing by our way, God will be at the center of it all, which will make the way we deal with them so much more 1. easier to get through 2. edifying 3.strengthening.

 One thing i must mention about being in a Christ-centered relationship is the worship you get to experience together! Along with family devotions and studies together, spending Sabbath together is super special. Especially in LDRs (long-distance) time spent together is valuable and when you can experience God’s sanctified time with those you love, it’s a truly amazing thing. I just love it !!

Some of you reading this may be asking what about boundaries and all of that ? I understand the life of a Christian to be liberating in a sense that, there is no better or safer place to be than in the will of God- who knows all things. I say that to say this, setting boundaries are important in every relationship. So is communication with God and with the person you are in a relationship with. It is so necessary to talk about everything so that there is no assumption, nor confusion or misunderstanding. God will reveal everything He believes you should know and at the time He wants you to know it. Let God write your love story! No need to try and manage it yourself because as said before, we can’t do anything (right in God’s sight- which is what our christian relationship is aiming for) without Him!  🙂

Each relationship is different, just as each individual Christian is different, and so there will always be things that are regarded more special or less challenging than others. The good thing is that we can grow together, learning as we grow and get closer to Christ. You will find that your wants, dreams, hopes and desires will change and become more Christ centered. Your personal life will change the closer you draw to God and that will then change your relationship for the good.

Not everything will be as they say plain sailing, and especially as you seek to keep your relationship a Christian one, the enemy of souls will try his utmost to deter your efforts from doing so.

Keeping Consistent: That can be the most difficult thing about being in a Christian relationship. Just as your personal Christian journey needs close and constant attention, so does your relationship!

Consistency is always a hard one, trust me, staying on my work-out routines and keeping up my healthy lifestyle is sometimes VERY challenging. But there is hope, and that also makes it the best thing about being in a Christian relationship; God never leaves you, nor forsakes you.

I encourage all who read this to think about their relationships today. What is the purpose and what is the mission? Do you do it just for you? Ask yourself these questions and contemplate the scriptures, for in them you will find guidance on how to truly be in a Christian relationship.

Peace, Love & God Bless,

Dest x


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  1. Hey Destiny I’ve been following your blog about Christain dating , do you have any tips how to go about these things , would you say it’s right for God to provide you with friendship that could one day blossom into something ?


    1. Hey there ! Thanks for following my blog, I hope you find my posts useful in some way 🙂

      I would definitely say that God can place someone along your path that may be a potential. There are many girls and guys that are potentials for us but God gives us the choice and the wisdom to discern which one is the right one for us. You have your preferences of course and God has is guidance through the Word. A great book to read is Waiting and Dating by Myles Munroe. It talks about God’s input into your relationship and the power of the CHOICE when it comes to love. Hope that helps, stay blessed.


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